Anger and Sorrow: understanding what it is? - ayushnvs

I don’t remember where, but I read a beautiful story somewhere. The story goes as “There was a teacher who wanted to teach a lesson to his disciple about anger. But he was waiting for the right moment. Once, he gathers his disciples and takes them on evening walk near the bank of the Ganges as usual. On arriving on the bank, he saw two people, shouting at each other out of anger. Seeing it as the right moment, he asks their disciple that why angry people shout on each other.

Some of his disciples tried to answer his question but none satisfied the teacher. Later, the teacher tells disciple that when two people get angry, their hearts get farther so that their conversation does not reach to each other and that’s why they shout at each other. But when two people love each other, then, their hearts become so close that they need little or even no conversation to understand each other. They can talk with their eyes without using a word from their mouth.”

One cannot stop being angry if the person is not conscious of itself. So, from here, the first question arises is ‘Why one should stop being angry?’ and the second one is 'How to do it?'

When a person gets angry then he/she forgets about what may happen in the present moment or a moment later, let alone in the future.

Life is all about being alive in the present moment that means being conscious of all the happenings that are going on in the present moment and work to get better from it in the future.

When a person gets angry then he/she forgets about life and being alive, the person only wants his/her precedence over the other. Even sometimes people use violence after angry conflict.

There is a saying in Indian society, ‘If a person analyze it, he will find his own mistake in every conflict’.  If a person analyzes himself, he may find this statement true. Always try to see your own mistake, and surprisingly, you will find it true that it was your own mistake that led to the conflict or even more, violence and by avoiding that mistake you could have stopped the conflict.

I remember a story from a great book ‘Autobiography of a Yogi’. Swami Sri Yukteshwar Giri always analyzes himself whenever a person comes to him and wants to make conflict out of a conversation or pull all the bad things out of his nature. Swami Ji never took part in conversation instead what he always did was to just listen to that person and see inside himself and his deeds for an ounce of truth about what the person is saying. And if he finds any truth he always tried to mend it.

If a person is not conscious then it is hard for him to stop himself from getting angry and put himself out of conflict.

The expectation of a person and recurring of something that a person doesn’t like always seem to lead him into sorrow and anger.

Sometimes, it is also seen that a person, irritated from a thing or other person may get angry over some another person for nothing.

Sorrow is a much different thing from anger. When a person expects something and in the end, if he does not meet his expectation then the person gets sorrow. It may also lead to anger in some cases.

And that’s why there is saying which is always used by Swami Yukteshwar Giri. ‘A person should not expect anything from anyone at all.’ He should be ready for every possible outcome.

There is a difference in sorrow and anger. When a person is in anger then he loses his ability to question about himself or what may happen or why is this happening but when a person gets sorrow he always tends to ask the question ‘why is this happening to me, what will happen next?’

Anger always diminishes a person mentally and spiritually both. And getting free from anger requires conscious breathing and living which leads to conscious life. Conscious life is the solution of all physical and mental problems and it is the perfection of mankind that is what a person seeks in his life as an ultimate goal.

A person tends to lose his hope when he is in sorrow. But it can be avoided with contentment and being free from expectations.

After all, the only thing that will lead a man free from anger and sorrow is his being conscious and free from expectations.

I will say only one thing to all the people reading this post that try to stay calm if you can do because whatever you say or do out of anger is not what you would want to say or do. Try not to speak anything while feeling low or for showing precedence. I know this is hard and if a single person could understand it out of thousand I will consider writing this post, successful.

Thank you for reading this post.

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